Ask yourself this question and ask it fairly often. Whenever you do, really take a minute or two to think about your real and truthful answer.

If you were told today, that you had exactly 6 months left of your life…

What massive shifts would occur in your thinking, your behavior and your relationship with life?

What epiphanies and realizations would you have about your life and the way you have been living it or not living it?

What would you say to your best friend about how you feel about them?

What would be written in the letters you wrote to your parents and siblings, knowing the time to say it was almost up?

What love would you confess or deepen in a whole new and real way?

What habits would immediately be dropped?

What grudges would completely dissipate?

What views of people and the world would change, and what would they change to?’

What experiences would you relive and revisit?

What experiences would you live for the first time and completely soak up?

What would you say and who would you say it to?

Would you realize how some of the elements of your life, lifestyle and ways of thinking have perhaps been toxic to your spirit? In this realization with only 6 months to live,

Would you let it all go immediately?

What would your new eyes see?

Another way of reflecting on your life, of discovering if you are living it out in the way your true self desires you to be, is to do the opposite of the above and imagine visiting your 85 year old self in the future.

If you asked him/her for some advice or guidance, what might they say?

Would your future self tell you, “you are perfectly on path, don’t change a single thing! “

Or perhaps might they offer some loving insights, whether small and subtle or huge and profound?

Your future self might tell you to laugh more, to keep going after your goals and dreams but to not take life so seriously all the time. Your future self might tell you to get out in nature more and that you may regret how rarely you soaked in the sun, hiked in the mountains, were in awe of the canyons and at peace near the ocean when you were so able to be.

Your future self might tell you to love deeper and harder on everyone who means anything to you in your life and that ultimately memories of meaningful relationships, adventures and experiences with others and yourself, people who you’ve impacted and who have impacted you, is all you truly reflect on at 85.

Your future self might tell you to stop being so hard on yourself…

that you will have so much to be proud of, so many inner and outer accomplishments by 85; so there is really no reason to miss out on all the meaning in the beautiful journey of getting to and going through each one.

This is life, happening right now. Life is not just the ‘big moments’ or the epic photo opps. Would you tear a page out of a book and claim it as the whole story? Or does each word, each moment, experience and emotion create the richness of it all?

Don’t miss it, the essence of life that is. Soak it all in because the truth is, there are no little moments <3


Accepting yourself is one thing but be careful to not confuse accepting with settling. Never settle for any part of yourself you don’t like. Never settle for parts of yourself that are interfering with your ultimate happiness, how you want to be and your life desires.

It’s not about changing who you are or not accepting yourself, it’s about undoing what is not really *you*; it’s about growing into who you *really are at your core, who you’ve really always been and who you truly want to be, instead of succumbing to habits and wiring formed from experience and conditioning.

Identify and separate what was born within you from what was learned or adopted that is not yours to own.

Give yourself grace, yes. Accept yourself and who you are at this exact moment in your journey, yes.
But don’t stop there, don’t ever give up on taking ownership of your blue print, erasing and redrawing as many times as you need until it’s a masterpiece YOU have mapped out, created and are building.
As adults we are able to take control and full ownership of the beautiful project of ourselves.

Lay it out, examine the job that your parents, friends, family, experiences, and society have all done with your blueprint. Thank them for the wonderful pieces you want to keep and lovingly put the eraser head to the parts you’re not so fond of.

You are the architect of you.

Thank your helpers and influencers, ask opinions and advice from trusted loved ones, don’t be afraid to try something new or to mess up , but ultimately, be your leader, never stop growing, never give up on your vision of you. It IS possible to be and have exactly what your heart desires, no matter how impossible or far fetched it seems.

YOU are the designer, create the you of your dreams while loving the you right now.

Never lose sight and you will see…

❤️, Shay